Shit happens... we all know that's what life is all about... you win some you lose some... there is a lot that you plan... you even try for it.... yearn for it but sometimes life has just something else in store for you... it has a different plan...well that's life...at that moment it sucks because you feel betrayed... you try and seek lots of answers... you evaluate a lot.... there are lots of what ifs... what if i had done this ... what if i had done that.... sometimes you really don't understand why it happened and you are left completely flabbergasted... with the "what the hell" expression... but you still evaluate and in the process...that's when the feeling of self doubt seeps in....you try and ask am i not good enough.... where did i go wrong....you play a blame game and somehow it starts and ends at you....people around you try and tell you its not you...they care...they love...it helps sometimes it doesn't...but that's not whats important...whats important it with every trial..there is a lot more connected.... the time that it takes to heal and come out of the situation... brings with it a lot of change.....
change that makes you, a new you after the healing process is over... the changes that come over a person when the hurt is over...people add to their personality people lose a lot of them behind... many call it the learning process what you have learnt from the whole situation.. and actually that's what i have been thinking about... before the situation happened you were someone, living a very content and a normal life... you were accepted and appreciated... then is that change that comes about you now, good or bad.... whatever you may gain from the situation is definitely good but what about what you lose... sometimes people take a lot of you with them when they hurt you... is that good too????
so this time when you're hurt or lost to a situation one has to see what you gain as a person or how much have you lost of yourself as a person.... coz either of these has to happen no person remains unaffected... not even those who say they are strong ones and say " i don't care a fuck"... unconsciously they get affected in some way if not as much
no pain no gain
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